Radha and Raman were 2 young dynamic individuals who by the age of 25 had a great job, were earning great bucks, traveling the world, partying every weekend, wore only branded stuff. In Mumbai where realty prices are skyrocketing, they owned a 4 bedroom hall kitchen in a posh area in South Mumbai. Both were college sweethearts and dated each other for over 7 years. They finally decided to take the plunge and tied the knot. It was beautiful and memorable destination wedding in Greece. They had pre-wedding photo shoot, wore designer stuff, and had a grand wedding like the celebrities. In total, anyone would be envious of this young couple. They had it all in such a young age. They were the perfect example of the “happily ever after” couple. But an acquaintance told me that they had filed for divorce within 6 months of marriage citing incompatibility issues. I was surprised. What went wrong? A middle-class girl like me always believed that financial stability was equivalent to a happy marriage!
My mind went back to the year 2001 when a tall lanky guy and I met at an arranged marriage setup. Generally in arranged marriage set-ups the girl’s looks and the guy’s job are given importance. We both met and clicked instantly and said YES instantly. I liked his disarming simple smile and may be he liked my simplicity too! Oh yes! I was 5 feet to his 6 feet and I didn’t bother to ask how much he earned or what property he owned.
We got married and began our marital journey in a humble 1 BHK of Mumbai with both of us jointly earning 15,000/- per month. But trust me, we were so happy with each other! The local train rides, the street food shared together, the joy of being happy with each other was precious. We had our first child within first year of marriage. Our son became a part of our happy life. We never bothered about buying expensive toys for him, our love was sufficient.
So, is it love or money?
I believe love, respect, compatibility, accepting each other with all the flaws, not having high expectations, letting go sometimes, and communication are the keys to a successful marriage. If money would have been the key to a great marriage, no celebrity would have divorced.
Money is important for a successful marriage but love and respect are invaluable.
Written for the prompt “Love or Money?”
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